As parents of multiple children, Scott and I know the struggle there is to give each child individual attention while growing a business, flourishing in a career, strengthening our relationship and many other things happening in life daily. In the case of twins, this act gets a bit trickier because by nature you tend to think of the two of them as a unit. However, whether you have two kids or ten, each child is their own person and is looking to create an individual bond with their parents that show their love. Here is how I create one-on-one moments with Silas and Sander:
MAKE DELIBERATE EFFORTS
Though my specific circumstance may not be the “norm”, the thing to note about what I am about to share is the effort made. I travel a lot, no really,
COMMUNICATE NONVERBALLY WITH THEM
I consider nonverbal love the most important love that you can give a kid because you are not saying “yes” or “no”. In those moments, you are not being a teacher and showing them that there is always going to be someone here. I think that lasts forever and instills the “you can lean on me” feeling in your kids.
EXPLORE WHAT YOUR KIDS ARE INTERESTED IN
It is a bit easier when your children are younger but I feel like you should never stop exploring what interests your kids. If you stay ever present in their interests, you also can’t help but to spend one-on-one time and build your connection. For example, if your child comes home and is wearing gothic clothing, the first thing most parents would do is
There is no step-by-step guide on how to build strong relationships and connect with your kids, but if you make the effort I am sure amazing things will follow. Tag me on IG stories in selfies with you and your kid, so I can see and celebrate your one-on-one time! @ShaunT